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Be Political Not Polite

by Romanovsky & Phillips

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1.
I Met A Man 04:09
I met a man with arms of steel He had muscles a-plenty and sex appeal He was hearty and hale The essence of male But his consciousness paled when compared... To a potato! Why is it that when they're hot They're often not aware They may be buff But that's not enough If their head is full of air I met a man who made me laugh He was a good time and a half He loved to be sleazy And he wanted to please me And it would have been easy if I... Had been attracted to him! Why is it that when they're fun They're not the one that you adore? You could be friends But then again You'd hoped for something more Should you take what you can get Or take the time to shop for what you're wanting? Maybe you should check your bait And take a look at what it is you're flaunting I met a man who enlightened me He knew so much it nearly frightened me We were politically aligned He was spiritually refined But socially, kind of a nerd... Well, more than kind of! Why is it that when they're smart And their heart is so pure They have no frills Like social skills To get them out the door? No one's absolutely right for you But too much wrong Can kill the song You've dreamed so long of writing
2.
You're applying for a job So you're filling out a form And for all intents and purposes You fit into the norm Until it says to list your next of kin But there's no box to fit you in 'Cause the one you love The one who shares your life Is not your husband or your wife Oh no! Heterosexism strikes again So use the power of the pen To draw a box of your own and then Label it however you like: Lover, spouse, or partner-in-life That's one way you can fight When heterosexism strikes Michael served his country well When he went to fight the war And each letter from his lover He locked safely in a drawer Until a witch hunt of McCarthy style Demanded he be put on trial They said his love, his sexuality Threatened national security Oh no! Heterosexism knocks you down But pick yourself up off the ground And challenge them to a second round Get a lawyer, file a report Drag their asses back into court That's one way you can fight When heterosexism strikes Don't let them break you, or make you miserable Don't let them take you, and make you invisible We're here, we're queer, that's a natural fact When heterosexism strikes, strike back! Sharon and her lover Sue Danced and dined by candlelight They were one of many couples Getting intimate that night Until the waiter asked them both to leave And they looked at him in disbelief As he ended their romantic night of bliss Because they'd had the nerve to kiss Oh no! Heterosexism strikes again But you've got rights you must defend So get together a group of your gayest friends Go back to the scene of the crime Hug and kiss and have a good time That's one way you can fight When Heterosexism strikes Heterosexism on the loose But you don't have to take abuse No! Now's the time we can put to use The righteous anger we feel The love we're taught to conceal We've got to stand up and fight When heterosexism strikes Don't let them break you, or make you miserable Don't let them take you, and make you invisible We're here, we're queer, that's a natural fact When heterosexism strikes, strike back!
3.
Every day I go to work I'm there to teach integrity But how can I teach anything With a closet door in front of me 'Cause when I look out at the faces One or two see through the lies And when I look right back at them I see the pain of my own youth in their eyes And it breaks my heart And it makes me feel ashamed to wear this mask Each day from 8 to 3 I can't reach out To the ones who need a friend So I must pretend to be One of the enemy Every year a hundred faces Staring blindly up at me How I want to tell the truth Instead of teaching history But for job security I don't dare say a word And so my good intentions fade And my thoughts of love are left unheard And it hurts my pride And I hate to have to hide myself away Each day from 8 to 3 I can't reach out To the ones who need a friend So I must pretend to be One of the enemy To the boys who leave the girls behind To the girls with more than boyfriends On their minds I can't reach out To the ones who need a friend So I must pretend to be I must pretend Maybe some day I'll find a way (Some day soon I'll find a way) To comfort them (to calm their fears) And let them know that things will change If they can make it through these years
4.
He makes me smile when I am blue He gives me answers when I really haven't got A single solitary clue He makes my troubles seem so small He's so handsome, dark and tall He doesn't judge me when I regress His words are cloaked in tenderness He's the lover I've never kissed Oh no...I'm in love He helps me strengthen my resolve There's not a problem he can't solve He's always cheerful, he's never a grouch Ooh, I wanna lay down on his couch We get along like soup and salad He reassures me that my anger is valid He thinks it's good when I get pissed Oh no...I'm in love with my therapist My friends encouraged me to get some therapy 'Cause when you left me I was such a mess I thought life held no more for me 'Til he opened up his door to me And I found myself surrounded by his sympathy He reinforces my self-esteem He likes to analyze my dreams He always listens when I speak I wish I could afford to see him More than once a week He lets me try out different roles He pushes me to set some goals Each hour we spend together is total bliss Oh no... My friends encouraged me to get some therapy 'Cause when you left me I was such a mess I thought it was the end for me 'Til he became a friend to me And I found myself astounded by his empathy He's got diplomas on his wall There's fresh-brewed coffee down the hall He's got begonias on his window sill And Kleenex enough for a nuclear spill He calls it "progress" when I cry Oh what a sweet and sensitive guy Why couldn't you have been like this? Oh no...I'm in love with my therapist
5.
When I look into your eyes I don't see any tears I know they must be wise To be living all these years Your heart is full of love But you don't know what to say How did you show your feelings Back in your day? How did you love each other? What secrets did you share? Your eyes are soft and gentle But your words don't seem to care I would not criticize The way you brought me up But what was on your mind The night you thought me up? Your heart is full of kindness I can see it every day Why do you choose to hide it When I say... How did you love each other? What secrets did you share? Your eyes are soft and gentle But your words don't seem to care I know you did the best you could You did everything a mother should Now you tell me that you care for me In birthday greeting rhymes But I'd like to hear it from your lips Just one time 'Cause I want to understand I want to make amends Why must a generation Put these miles between two friends? How did you love each other? What secrets did you share? Your eyes are soft and gentle But your words don't seem to care
6.
I've got a view of Boston From the twenty-second floor The moon is red Room service is at the door I've got songs to sing And a million things To distract me when I'm blue But I don't have you I've got rolls and rolls of snapshots From thirty-seven states I've memorized the slogans On all the license plates Oh I've seen the sights And the neon lights But I can't enjoy the view When I don't have you I close my eyes, I see your face Staring out the window of a taxi in the rain I don't know when the road will end Or how long I will have to wait To be with you again There's a waiter making eyes at me Perhaps he'd take me home But I know in a stranger's arms I'd just feel more alone Oh I've got the chance For a quick romance In the lives that I pass through But I don't have you
7.
Once upon a time when life was simple and serene My roommate was a lesbian and I, a happy queen I lived for Sunday brunches in my tightest fitting jeans While she read 'The Well Of Loneliness' and 'Plexus' magazine But now I go to potlucks where the food is rather bleak And I've joined a new support group that meets every other week While she lives to go out dancing with her hair done up in curls It's getting hard to tell the boys from the girls Once upon a time when life was crystal clear Each of us had favorite music we preferred to hear While I went dancing to Sylvester down in Key West every year She went to music festivals to worship Holly Near But now our tastes in music have completely turned around And now instead of Michigan she goes to Provincetown While I play Alix Dobkin on my walkman now and then It's getting hard to tell the women from the men Once upon a time when life was easy to predict Sex was something I could get, and I could get it quick I'd look at all the men and know that I could take my pick While she frowned upon my lifestyle with each and every trick But now my sex adventures, though still fun, are rather tame While she's discovered JoAnn Loulan and she'll never be the same 'Cause she dates a lot of women and she buys erotic toys It's getting hard to tell the girls from the boys Times they change Fashions rearrange themselves If you don't stay on top You'll find yourself dropped on a shelf Once upon a time when life was black and white I used to do the drag shows to be famous for a night While she drank her beer without a glass and looked for Mrs. Right I'd cruise the local customers just asking for a light But now she is the only one who steps out in a dress And I'm wearing all her flannel shirts and sandals, I confess And now she smokes Virginia Slims instead of Lucky Strikes It's getting hard to tell the boys from girls Hard to tell the men from women Hard to tell the faggots from the dykes Now if all of this appears to show that everyone's gone mad It's only part and parcel of a somewhat larger fad Look no further than the glint of gold in many straight boys' ears It's getting hard to tell the breeders* from the queers *The term "breeders" is fading from usage as more gay and lesbian parents become visible (see next song.) However, it fit too well in this lyric not to use it. Cut me some slack, ok?
8.
Goodnight my daughter Sleep tight, my son The world is full of injustices Of which you known none I wish that I could shelter you So you'd never have to see The ways in which some folks have made An outlaw out of me Goodnight my precious Sweet dreams my little one While the lawyers and the courts decide What is to be done I wish that you could tell them all When they dare to question me That we're every bit the model Of a perfect family It's not the pot that grows the flower It's not the clock that slows the hour The definition's plain for anyone to see Love is all it takes to make a family Good night my child So innocent, so young When they start teaching you to hate me I pray you won't succumb To prejudice and bigotry To ignorance and shame Because I'm proud of who I am And hope you'll feel the same It's not the pot that grows the flower It's not the clock that slows the hour The definition's plain for anyone to see Love is all it takes to make a family
9.
When you speak you often use Some racist word or sexist phrase That makes me stop you in your tracks To note the error of your ways And I know you find it boring But it seems to me the only way To correct you, to object to The hurtful things you say Right the wrongs of human rights The risk you take could save a life Silence keeps us all in darkness We can't change it overnight But we can shed a little light Be political, not polite I cannot be satisfied Knowing just how much you care I want an ally with a voice Defending me when I'm not there 'Cause being actively supportive Is the greatest gift that you could give By demanding understanding We can change the world in which we live (Chorus) Words can hurt, words can heal Make us think, make us feel And they're every bit as deadly As a bullet tearing through the land For if our words create the climate Then the blood is on our hands Every time we hear a joke That takes a shot at someone else If we speak up for their rights We are speaking for ourselves 'Cause we will never have true freedom 'Til everyone one of us is free From the silence, and the violence That's become our history (Chorus)
10.
I saw your new boyfriend He seems like a jerk He only said a word or two But I think I saw a smirk on his face When I stopped by your place To say goodbye And now I really don't now why I bothered 'Cause I'm no good for you Or maybe nobody's good enough for me My friends still remind me Whether I like it or not Of all the stupid things you do As if I have forgotten your ways Or your passionate plays You gave me everything I think it was the wedding ring that scared me 'Cause I'm no good for you Or maybe nobody's good enough for me I hope maybe someday We will talk again And all will be forgiven And we will both be friends and we'll laugh At mistakes in the past 'Cause we will know That we were right in letting go of each other 'Cause I'm no good for you Or maybe nobody's good enough for me
11.
There's a woman that we all know and love She's made us laugh for years We've watched as her talents unfolded And blossomed into a career But every time you see her With her lover on TV They call themselves "partners" To keep up the myth Of heterosexuality There's a former host of a talk show As gay as the day is long But he always sang the wrong pronouns When he opened with a song Well it's true he might lose a few fans But he'd gain one more in me If he just wouldn't try to live the myth Of heterosexuality Queers in the closet in positions of power Doing a dance on thin ice Deals with the devil to be heros for an hour How long must we pay the price There's a famous fashion designer Respected from east to west We wear his name on our underwear On our butts, and on our chests But the ones who buy his clothing Would prefer to never see That they're also buying the myth Of heterosexuality Queers in the closet in positions of power Doing a dance on thin ice Deals with the devil to be heros for an hour How long must we pay the price It's time to think twice. There's a singer who's risen to stardom She got famous overnight They say that she signed a contract To keep her lesbian lips sealed tight When she feels that she's established Will she come out for all to see Or will she perpetuate the myth Of heterosexuality Queers in the closet in positions of power Doing a dance on thin ice Deals with the devil to be heros for an hour How long must we pay the price It's time to think twice. Think twice about taking a free ride to freedom While many are making demands And we should think twice About protecting the people Who think that there's safety in silence And won't take a stand
12.
Hymn 03:10
If there's something to be learned From examining the past It's that institutions change Or else they do not last Now you are such a dinosaur In the ancient ways you think And if you do not soon adapt You too will be extinct I believe that Christ's intention Many centuries ago Was to serve and to enlighten And to guide our spiritual growth But the latest word from Rome Is not a loving one at all If Jesus walked on earth today I think he'd be appalled Now the priesthood's quickly shrinking But you won't let women in And instead of teaching safer sex You condemn it as a sin You deny all women the right To decide their bodies' fate Suggesting that their purpose here Is just to procreate You say that gays and lesbians Have fallen from God's grace And tacitly you sanction All the violence that we face You distort the Bible's words To support your platitudes But bigotry is not A very Christian attitude Now as for reformation I have very little hope But if you think it can be done Go and tell it to the Pope 'Cause the clergy and parishioners Who are still inside the closet Support this persecution Even if they do not cause it.
13.
In a Mexican restaurant I waited for you For an hour I waited and anticipated A fabulous dinner for two You suggested a booth in the dark "How romantic," I thought "I'm sorry," you told me Then looked at me coldly Thank heaven the salsa was hot! "Well, how 'bout a drink?" you asked I said, "That would be fine" Then I said, "Cut the drama" As the band played "La Bamba" For the seventeenth time And the mariachis played And the plastic palm trees swayed And the turquoise statue of Mary was turning to blue You were trashing our relationship As I choked on a nacho chip You told me I'd have to get used to a life without you Then the waiter came over to us With cocktails for two And all I could think as he set down my drink Was that I'd like to dump it on you You proceeded to twist the knife Or that's how it seemed As I sipped my gazpacho You said, "You're not macho enough For the man of my dreams" What the hell was I doing there With my heart on my sleeve? He was being so rude But right then the food came And I couldn't leave And the mariachis played And the plastic palm trees swayed And the turquoise statue of Mary was turning to blue You were slashing our relationship With each margarita sip But I couldn't begin to imagine a life without you We ate dinner in silence then And I felt like a wreck Then halfway through my enchilda I got the bravado to ask for the check "Well I think I should leave," said I "I don't want any scenes It's too late for questions I've got indigestion And not just from eating the beans" "What did you expect?" I said "Yes of course I am hurt No, don't try to console me You've got guacamole all over your shirt!" And the mariachis played And the plastic palm trees swayed And the turquoise statue of Mary was turning to blue Cashing in our relationship I felt a smile return to my lips As I saw a new life before me, a life without you Then I pushed away my tortilla Got up and said, "Guess I'll see ya" 'Cause I saw a life that was freer A life without you!
14.
It's not a simple case of breaking up One chapter's closed, another has begun Now I try to learn to call you my ex-lover But how do you ex-love someone? Are you a friend or foe or just a ghost? I see the hurt so deep within your eyes But the love runs deep as the river of our sorrow With currents just as strong as family ties All the men I've ever loved Remain a part of me for good I can't let them go completely Even when my heart knows I should Don't think it's easy for me To watch our hopes turn to shattered dreams It takes time to sincerely say goodbye And it takes time for dreams to die But I won't forget the way you held me tight Not even if we're ever far apart And the love we lost will in time be rediscovered In another corner of the heart All the men I've ever loved Remain a part of me for good I can't let them go completely Even when my heart knows I should
15.
Why are the papers full of gloom? Predicting a future of darkness and doom There's no denying many have died Lives have been lost, tears have been cried And there's so much pain and so little relief That it's hard to feel hope in our moment of grief But if that's what it takes to help someone live Then we have a lot we can give Because there's no such thing as false hope There's no dream that isn't real No such thing as false hope No one can say what the future will reveal If we believe in our hearts that it's true Surely our hope will pull us through Don't listen in to the TV scare It only weakens you with despair They paint a portrait full of doubt By leaving the long-term survivors out And as a result, how many are gone Because their hope was denied for too long? And if that's what it takes to help someone live Then we have a lot we can give Hope is on the horizon Help is on the way Love will pull us through another day Hope is the key that unlocks the mind Lightens the burden or leaves it behind And if that's what it takes to help someone live Then we have a lot we can give Hope is on the horizon Help is on the way Love will pull us through another day

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This album is dedicated with love to the memory and music of our friend and fellow songwriter, Joe Bracco.

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released January 1, 1991

Produced and Arranged by
John "George Martin" Bucchino, Paul Phillips & Ron Romanovsky

Executive Producer
Ron Romanovsky

Vocal Arrangements
Paul Phillips except "Hymn," "Oh No...l'm ln Love" and "No False Hope"
by Paul Phillips and John Bucchino
Drum programming by John Bucchino

Engineer
John Slattery
Recorded and mixed January through April, 1991 at Sounder Recording, Granada Hills, California

Additional recording and mixing by Rudi Ekstein at Foxfire Recording, Van Nuys, California

"One Of The Enemy" recorded and mixed December 11, 1989 by Kevin O'Connor at Hit City West Los Angeles, California

Mastered by David Turner at Digiprep, Hollywood, California

Ron Romanovsky
vocals, acoustic rhythm & lead guitar, acoustic piano on "Red Moon Over Boston" and "Love ls All lt Takes"

Paul Phillips
vocals

John Bucchino
acoustic piano and all synthesized instruments

Ken Park
bongos on "Once Upon A Time"
cymbal on "No False Hope"

Guest Vocalists
Holly Near, Alix Dobkin and Phranc (The LesBionics) on "No False Hope"
Michael Callen (The Vienna Queer Boy) on "Hymn"
John "The Emulator" Bucchino (devil bass vocal) on "Queers ln The Closet"
The Phillips Sisters (Paula, Pauline & Paulette) on "Oh No...l'm ln Love"

Photography
lrene Young, Sausalito

Cover Concept and Design
Ron Romanovsky & Paul Phillips

Art Direction
Circum Design Studio / Santa Fe

Holly Near appears courtesy of Redwood Records
Alix Dobkin appears courtesy of Women's Wax Works & Ladyslipper Records
Phranc appears courtesy of lsland Records
Michael Callen appears courtesy of Significant Other Records
John Bucchino appears courtesy of Dinosaur Records
Ron and Paul appear courtesy of their mothers

John Bucchino dedicates his work on this album to Michael Bucchino and Ed Brucks

Ron and Paul would like to thank all the current "Friends of Fresh Fruit" (Jeri Dansky, Donn Mumma, Jeff Noodleman, Jack Bors, Todd Verbeek, Dave Wozniak, Navah Levine, Larry Hoover, Harvey Hertz, Sam Todes) for their faith and support, as well as everyone whose generous donations made this album possible, especially the following:

Angels
Jeff Noodleman, Robert Brandt, Scott O'Hara

Benefactors
Norman Barth, Dave Wozniak

Sponsors
Alan M. Easton, John Morse, Pat Kenschaft & Fred Chichester, Harvey Hertz, Craig R. Harvey, Alex J. (& Rosanne V.) Niforos & Greg R. McKnight, Bill Folk, Denys Howard, Robert Eminian, Paul (& Sean) Grossberg & Dean Zimke.

Thanks also to Ken Park and all our guest singers for your contributions to this album; lrene Young (you're the best!); John Slattery (for long hours and fresh coffee); Rich Brown and Mark Senjamin (for keeping the home fires burning).

Extra Special thank to Ken-Q and Barbie-Q (The Peterson B & B) for a home away from home and the best microwave meals in the San Fernando Valley

Heaps of love and gratitude to John (...but enough about sex) Bucchino for his outrageous musical talents and for helping, pushing, challenging and encouraging us to make the album we wanted to make.

And a 2023 thank you to Billy Green and Chip Hoover for digitizing the album booklet for Bandcamp.

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Romanovsky & Phillips Santa Fe, New Mexico

Romanovsky & Phillips were the first “out and proud” American gay male musical duo to
achieve national acclaim. From 1982-1999, an era when gay artists often hid their sexual orientation, this duo performed songs which openly celebrated their lives as gay men.

With tight harmonies and memorable melodies, their sassy and inspired songs uniquely capture the gay experience of those decades.
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